23/09/2025
It didn’t take me long to decide whether to write this post or not.
I’m horrified at what the media have done to The Duchess of York this week.
As women especially, we have to say no to misogyny, as we’ve all been impacted by it since childhood. Why does society love to single out women in particular? If it makes us feel good, then the problem lies with us. We’re only fuelling violence against women.
I can only imagine the magnitude of this. When I saw the news, it reminded me of women in coercive control situations, who need to say whatever they can to literally survive. I’ve been in situations like that myself (a lot of women have) when we’ve had to publicly and privately praise a man we despise, just to keep ourselves safe. If you’ve ever been a victim of violence against women, you’ll understand.
Can we wait for some facts? Regardless of whether the reports are true or not, I’m disgusted at how quickly one woman is taken down. Especially someone who has done so much for children’s charities, for years. Fergie is one of the hardest working royals. Her work is relentless. In meeting her myself and the time I spent with her, I was impressed by her graciousness, her patience, and the amount of care that she had for so many, and some who only wanted a piece of her for their own gain. If any charity has actually “cut ties” with her, like the media suggest, then it’s the charities that need to take a look at themselves.
I stand with you. I see through people. I see you and I can’t be fooled. I saw who you were when there were no cameras, and no need for performance. I'll always admire you for everything you do. I know what it’s like to be taken advantage of for having a big heart. It’s the cold hearts that are rewarded and protected.
I have to speak up because this is exactly what Acala Stem stands for. This is why we exist – to dismantle inequality, misogyny and to support women. There’s no other agenda here in supporting the Duchess, other than sending a clear message that if we stay silent when a woman is singled out in a sea of others, then nothing will ever change.