17/06/2026
Saying ‘I DO’ at the alter does not automatically mean a spouse cannot say ‘NO’ to s£x in a marriage.
Ignoring a spouse’s clear refusal; doing it when the spouse is asleep, intoxicated or unconscious; forcing your way through violently or threatening your spouse into s£x can be termed rap£.
In a healthy marriage, intimacy is based on mutual consent, respect and care— not obligation as most of our Nigerian men will take it.
You will see that your wife is stressed, or hurt by your actions towards her or even just not in the mood,the next thing the man will tell her is, “ abeg come closer, didn’t I pay your bride price”?😲
Instead of sounding like a broken record, there are many approaches you could use as a man to get your wife laid anytime you want.
1. Focus on emotional connection first. Many people are more receptive to intimacy when they feel emotionally close, appreciated or understood. If you hqve wronged her,ask for apology and allow her to heal.
2. Show affection without expecting s*x. When last did you compliment your wife? Compliment her looks always, hold hands with her once in a while, hug her often(could be when she’s cooking, from behind), tap her butts,spend quality time with her.
3. Learn what affects her desire.
Could be stress,resentment,health issue, hormonal changes and relationship conflicts between the both of you.
Some women carry emotional and financial burden in a home but in the night,the husband won’t even care to know how she’s doing,he’s just interested in mepe. That’s awful!
When you hurt her and asks for forgiveness,allow her to heal or help her to heal faster by being more intentional with your dealings.
4. Start foreplay on time. Could be through chat while you are on break at work. Then get her something when coming back from work.
5. If she says, ‘no’ try a little, pettingly not forcfully but if she persists, accept “no” graciously. A respectful response to rejection often creates more trust and safety, which can make future intimacy easier.
6. Last but most important; Give her money according to your capacity. When last did you give your wife money for hair, nails or even fashion accessories or for clothes?
Answer yourslef 🙄
Some of you who engages in extra marital affairs goes out and pet your side pieces but comes home to tell your wife that you paid bride price, Biko how much is even the bride price that you are using to manipulate your wives?
Well, I pity some of us that claim to be virtuous in every aspect of marriage,that’s a topic for another day.
Send this to your hubby if he’s in the association of “I paid in full” 😂
Some of them might actually not know it’s bad to force a wife into mekwe
