Adapting to Love

Adapting to Love Babywearing in-home consultations & classes in Amsterdam. I support parents in their journey, utilizing babywearing to foster resilience & independence.

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If anyone in the Netherlands has mother's milk to donate to a family in Utrecht it is deeply appreciated.
18/10/2021

If anyone in the Netherlands has mother's milk to donate to a family in Utrecht it is deeply appreciated.

Wie helpt?
Reposted from Philippine van der Goes] DONEER MOEDERMELK
Ze kreeg tijdens haar zwangerschap rugklachten. Het werd erger en erger. Kon haast niets meer. Met 30 weken zwanger kreeg ze te horen dat ze uitgezaaide borstkanker had. Zo verschrikkelijk, zo onwerkelijk...
Ze is met 32 weken met hulp bevallen. Ze heeft haar liefste meisje Yala 7 dagen in haar armen kunnen houden. Daarna ging ze heen en liet ze niet alleen Yala maar ook twee meisjes van 2 en 4 jaar achter. En een door verdriet verscheurde man, familie en vrienden. Zo ongrijpbaar, zo verdrietig...

Haar grote wens is dat kleine Yala moedermelk krijgt. Zijn er mama's die afgelopen 3 maanden zijn bevallen en in de omgeving van Utrecht of Lelystad wonen die moedermelk willen doneren? Mag ook reeds ingevroren zijn. Het is heel welkom. Stuur Philippine van der Goes] een DM voor verdere details. Ook voor als je een steunbetuiging aan de kleine Yala en haar familie wil sturen.

Ps. De tante van Yala is een vriendin van philippine_vander_goes. Ik hoop dat ik hen een klein beetje kan helpen in deze moeilijke periode door deze oproep te plaatsten.

illustratie @agnesloonstra
#donormelk
#moedermelk #borstvoeding #helpyala #borstkanker #kanker #baby #bevalling #zwangerschap #moedersvoorbaby #babymeisje

We’re doing it again! ⠀Preparing for Fatherhood workshop - 23 January 2022.  ⠀⠀After receiving wonderful reviews from th...
11/10/2021

We’re doing it again! ⠀
Preparing for Fatherhood workshop - 23 January 2022. ⠀

After receiving wonderful reviews from the 10 fathers that attended our first workshop, Atish & I are excited to offer this workshop again in the winter. Based on reviews, we are expanding the workshop to be longer, allowing for more time to go deeper into the material and have more conversations. We will also be including a catered lunch in the middle of the workshop to allow for time to chat and connect. ⠀

Details can be found via the link in my bio.

EQUAL PARENTING.⠀Maintaining respect, teamwork, and humour in your relationship while taking care of a baby and figuring...
20/09/2021

EQUAL PARENTING.⠀
Maintaining respect, teamwork, and humour in your relationship while taking care of a baby and figuring out parenthood is no easy feat. Both partners need to have some insight into what parenthood entails and asks of them before they can start to think about what their goals are for supporting each other through this transition. ⠀

Atish and I have been through difficult trials and stressful stages. What has always helped us get back to being best friends rather than (contentious) housemates has been the fact that we both work equally to understand where we are each at, where our kids are at, and give each other the support we need to care for ourselves.⠀

When partners do not equally participate in the self-education that is required to become and be parents, then the mental load and responsibilities will not be equal either. And when partners do not have equal access to self-care, then mental health and connection falters. Research clearly shows us that couples with more equal distribution of family labor do better, experience less resentment, and even have better s*x. ⠀

Our workshop Preparing for Fatherhood is designed to help new and expecting fathers step into this new role of actively asking questions and finding answers when it comes to babies, supporting their partners, staying connected, and equal home participation. ⠀

The 3 October workshop is nearly full and we will be starting a waitlist soon. Email [email protected] to grab a spot! ⠀

We are excited to meet everyone and dive in!

📷: @lucrecia.carosi.photo

#wearallthebabies #newbornlife #fourthtrimester #backcarry #wovenwraplove #babywearing #postpartum #keepcalmandcarrythem  #wearallthetoddlers #newbornlife #postpartumrealness #babywearingdad #carryingmatters #babywearingmatters #attachmentparenting #stayhome #draagconsulent #keeptheclose #draagdoek #equalparenting #genderequality #postpartumteamwork #newdad #fatherhood #preparingforbaby #preparingforpostpartum

EQUAL PARENTING.⠀
Maintaining respect, teamwork, and humour in your relationship while taking care of a baby and figuring out parenthood is no easy feat. Both partners need to have some insight into what parenthood entails and asks of them before they can start to think about what their goals are for supporting each other through this transition. ⠀

Atish and I have been through difficult trials and stressful stages. What has always helped us get back to being best friends rather than (contentious) housemates has been the fact that we both work equally to understand where we are each at, where our kids are at, and give each other the support we need to care for ourselves.⠀

When partners do not equally participate in the self-education that is required to become and be parents, then the mental load and responsibilities will not be equal either. And when partners do not have equal access to self-care, then mental health and connection falters. Research clearly shows us that couples with more equal distribution of family labor do better, experience less resentment, and even have better s*x. ⠀

Our workshop Preparing for Fatherhood is designed to help new and expecting fathers step into this new role of actively asking questions and finding answers when it comes to babies, supporting their partners, staying connected, and equal home participation. ⠀

The 3 October workshop is nearly full and we will be starting a waitlist soon. Email [email protected] to grab a spot! ⠀

We are excited to meet everyone and dive in!

📷: @lucrecia.carosi.photo

#wearallthebabies #newbornlife #fourthtrimester #backcarry #wovenwraplove #babywearing #postpartum #keepcalmandcarrythem  #wearallthetoddlers #newbornlife #postpartumrealness #babywearingdad #carryingmatters #babywearingmatters #attachmentparenting #stayhome #draagconsulent #keeptheclose #draagdoek #equalparenting #genderequality #postpartumteamwork #newdad #fatherhood #preparingforbaby #preparingforpostpartum

“Traveling used to be refreshing in so many ways. It was time to unwind and do new things. Time to just lounge in a cafe...
15/09/2021

“Traveling used to be refreshing in so many ways. It was time to unwind and do new things. Time to just lounge in a cafe and write in my journal. Time to wander aimlessly through a new city for hours. Time to focus on myself. Time to learn deeply about history and culture by doing homestays, language study, spending time in museums and walking tours. Time to feel alive riding for hours (or days) on wild bus journeys through mountain roads, backpacking into remote villages, hiking to isolated beaches. Time to dine fancy or go out dancing. It's none of those things anymore (at least not for now). ⠀

Parenting and all it details doesn't pause for a vacation or trip. You don't get “time-off” from your responsibilities when you travel with your kids. And in many ways parenting can be more intense when you need to care for your children where a pharmacist doesn't speak your language, or where your kids favorite foods are impossible to find, or when your baby is jet lag and you can't explain to them at 2am, 3am, 4am, and 5am why they need to [PLEASE] go back to sleep. Today, traveling with my kids is hard work, it's definitely not a vacation. But between the stressful and challenging moments, we find so much joy in sharing new places and cultures with our children. Seeing the world through their eyes and their questions is really special.” ⠀

My first blog post on traveling with babies & children is up! Along with a handful of favourite photos. The post introduces the 4 part series and includes the first part where I go into my thoughts and general advice for realistic travel as a family. The topics are: ⠀
• Zero Expectations - Zero Assumptions⠀
• “Hurry Up & Wait”⠀
• Don't be afraid to be adventurous.⠀
• Travel regularly. ⠀
• Engage locally.⠀
If you only read one part, make it “Engage locally.” It’s my most precious advice I can give. ⠀

And yes, I know writing about travel during a pandemic is poor timing but I’ve been meaning to put this all down in words for ages and it’s long overdue. So here it is, and I hope you get a chance to put it in practice when the time is right for your family.

29/08/2021

This is so good from Raised Good. Fear has become such an intrinsic part of parenting, that and guilt. It was never meant to be that way!
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I came across this quote of Kim John Payne's recently and it resonated so deeply with me.
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We must parent out of our own hopes and dreams for our children, not other people's fears. Our society's fears around children are so misguided anyway! Children are not spoiled by love and attention and affection. Children don't 'misbehave' - they communicate. Babies can't self soothe - they need us to coregulate their emotions with them.
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Do not let other people's fears cast a shadow over your relationship with your child. Parent in the light, not in the dark. Do what feels right for you and your child. Tap into your intuition. Trust your instincts. Silence the white noise of society so that the whisper of your inner knowing has the space to become a loud roar.
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Trust your child - they are born with zero agenda, other than to attach to you, to hold you close, to learn who you are...and therefore who they are. Health relationships literally build healthy brains. Commit to being inside your relationship with your child and create your own magic together. You've got this mama. ✨ #raisedgood
#carryingmatters #buildahappybrain

Taught by postpartum educator, @adaptingtolove, with the help of her husband, @atishkalyan. We’ve designed this class as...
28/08/2021

Taught by postpartum educator, @adaptingtolove, with the help of her husband, @atishkalyan. We’ve designed this class as an opportunity for fathers to connect with other new fathers, to learn more about how best to support your partner & stay connected with each other, to ask any questions you have, to prepare for transitions into parenthood, and to practice some basic newborn care skills like swaddling, diapering, & babywearing.⠀

This class is designed for anyone who identifies as a father or non-birthing parent and that is expecting a baby or currently in the newborn stage. However, parents of babies up to 1 year old will certainly have plenty to learn from and share with the class, as well.⠀

Partners are welcome to join, but this class will be centered on fathers.⠀

3 October. 13:30-16:30. Held at @geboortecentrumamsterdam

TOPICS⠀
• Supporting birthing-person's healing and recovery. Supporting birthing-person's identity shift.⠀
• Supporting your own transition into parenthood, finding support from your community, managing expectations & work.⠀
• Intimacy and s*x postpartum. How to remain connected physically and emotionally when s*x is off the table.⠀
• Fatherhood: Examining your own expectations of fatherhood, your goals for yourself. The importance of fathers.⠀
• Equal parenting. Distribution of responsibilities at home and with baby care.⠀
• Communication and conflict management with partners during time of stress and sleep deprivation.⠀
• Baby 101: Bathing, burping, swaddling, babywearing, diapering.⠀

■ Register on or before 20 September: 45 euros/person⠀
■ Register after 20 September: 55 euros/person⠀
■ Email [email protected] to register (follow link in bio).⠀
■ There will be snacks! 🥯🍿☕️🍺🍉

Photo: Lucrecia Carosi • Family & Baby Photographer Amsterdam

Taught by postpartum educator, @adaptingtolove, with the help of her husband, @atishkalyan. We’ve designed this class as an opportunity for fathers to connect with other new fathers, to learn more about how best to support your partner & stay connected with each other, to ask any questions you have, to prepare for transitions into parenthood, and to practice some basic newborn care skills like swaddling, diapering, & babywearing.⠀

This class is designed for anyone who identifies as a father or non-birthing parent and that is expecting a baby or currently in the newborn stage. However, parents of babies up to 1 year old will certainly have plenty to learn from and share with the class, as well.⠀

Partners are welcome to join, but this class will be centered on fathers.⠀

3 October. 13:30-16:30. Held at @geboortecentrumamsterdam

TOPICS⠀
• Supporting birthing-person's healing and recovery. Supporting birthing-person's identity shift.⠀
• Supporting your own transition into parenthood, finding support from your community, managing expectations & work.⠀
• Intimacy and s*x postpartum. How to remain connected physically and emotionally when s*x is off the table.⠀
• Fatherhood: Examining your own expectations of fatherhood, your goals for yourself. The importance of fathers.⠀
• Equal parenting. Distribution of responsibilities at home and with baby care.⠀
• Communication and conflict management with partners during time of stress and sleep deprivation.⠀
• Baby 101: Bathing, burping, swaddling, babywearing, diapering.⠀

■ Register on or before 20 September: 45 euros/person⠀
■ Register after 20 September: 55 euros/person⠀
■ Email [email protected] to register (follow link in bio).⠀
■ There will be snacks! 🥯🍿☕️🍺🍉

Photo: Lucrecia Carosi • Family & Baby Photographer Amsterdam

18/08/2021

Join me at this awesome pop-up event at the end of the month.

MAMA MRKT
27, 28, 29 August
Shopping, mingling, food, and workshops. You can register for a time slot or workshop.

I'll be teaching about finding new ways to connect with your partner postpartum and I'll be at the brunch! I hope to see you there.

A babywearing workshop for birth and postpartum professionals. 5 JULY 10:00 @geboortecentrumamsterdam Doulas, midwives, ...
16/06/2021

A babywearing workshop for birth and postpartum professionals. 5 JULY 10:00 @geboortecentrumamsterdam

Doulas, midwives, lactation consultants, kraamzorgs, etc. are welcome to attend to learn about the benefits of babywearing and how to share them with families.⠀

Babywearing can be a tremendous tool for families that are struggling to get a free hand, to care for themselves, or are dealing with postpartum depression, anxiety, or trauma. As such, it is important that health care professionals and birth workers recognize and understand the various benefits babywearing provides to both babies and parents. ⠀

Professionals can "prescribe" babywearing as a tool to help with bonding, anxiety, depression, and overall support. We will discuss the various ways babywearing can help families both physically and emotionally so that you can use this understanding in your work to support the families you work with.⠀

Baby carriers, slings, wraps are often not used in the best way. I will teach the basics of babywearing ergonomics and safety so that you can help families be comfortable in their carriers.⠀

This is not a workshop to learn how to teach how to use carriers, but rather a workshop to learn how to introduce babywearing for support and how to make basic suggestions for using carriers. I will have various carriers and demo dolls so that we can troubleshoot common mistakes. I will explain the differences of the main styles of carriers and wraps.⠀

Cost is €18/person if you register before 25 June. €25/person after that. Only 10 spaces available to ensure space for distancing. Email [email protected] to register.

A babywearing workshop for birth and postpartum professionals. 5 JULY 10:00 @geboortecentrumamsterdam

Doulas, midwives, lactation consultants, kraamzorgs, etc. are welcome to attend to learn about the benefits of babywearing and how to share them with families.⠀

Babywearing can be a tremendous tool for families that are struggling to get a free hand, to care for themselves, or are dealing with postpartum depression, anxiety, or trauma. As such, it is important that health care professionals and birth workers recognize and understand the various benefits babywearing provides to both babies and parents. ⠀

Professionals can "prescribe" babywearing as a tool to help with bonding, anxiety, depression, and overall support. We will discuss the various ways babywearing can help families both physically and emotionally so that you can use this understanding in your work to support the families you work with.⠀

Baby carriers, slings, wraps are often not used in the best way. I will teach the basics of babywearing ergonomics and safety so that you can help families be comfortable in their carriers.⠀

This is not a workshop to learn how to teach how to use carriers, but rather a workshop to learn how to introduce babywearing for support and how to make basic suggestions for using carriers. I will have various carriers and demo dolls so that we can troubleshoot common mistakes. I will explain the differences of the main styles of carriers and wraps.⠀

Cost is €18/person if you register before 25 June. €25/person after that. Only 10 spaces available to ensure space for distancing. Email [email protected] to register.

You’ve been preparing for birth, but what happens next? ❓❓❓⠀⠀Have you started to prepared your partnership and relations...
25/05/2021

You’ve been preparing for birth, but what happens next? ❓❓❓⠀

Have you started to prepared your partnership and relationship for life with a baby? How will you treat each other and support each other when you are both exhausted? Too often we hear “why did no one tell us...!?” We want to help couples navigate this transition together. We’re here to get you both to an equal understanding of the postpartum period. And we want to set you up to be the best support for each other. ⠀

As the @gottmaninstitute says, The greatest gift you can give your baby is a happy and strong relationship between the two of you. ✨♥️⠀

IN THIS WORKSHOP, WE WILL:⠀
• guide you and your partner through exercises to jumpstart important relationship conversations⠀
• illustrate a realistic view of postpartum life to help you plan for life & love after baby⠀
• discuss expectations for equal parenting⠀
• give tips on how to support each other through your recovery and identity shifts into parenthood⠀
• coach you through researched ways to maintain emotional and physical intimacy during the first few months after birth⠀
• provide evidence-based, physiological information on how to make s*x comfortable and safe again (when you’re both ready)⠀
• normalize the myriad of relationship changes and challenges in parenthood⠀
• understand your current communication patterns so that you will better track & treat them in parenthood⠀

LOVE AFTER BABY: Preparing your Partnership for Postpartum. June 13 online. Register via link in bio.

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About me

Hello! I’m Zyanya,* and I’m excited you want to learn more about babywearing!

Here’s a little about myself and my journey into babywearing…

I was introduced to babywearing while visiting family in the Netherlands in 2013. My cousin, who is a babywearing consultant, wore her young daughter with a beautiful woven wrap and made parenthood seem so easily integrated into her everyday life. She taught me a basic front carry with a wrap and I loved the concept. My introduction to babywearing was well before I had a child or even considered having children, so perhaps it was not the most common way one often learns about babywearing. Yet it felt natural, having a family member show me how to carry her daughter with a soft, beautiful piece of fabric, like she was passing an important tradition on to me. In that moment it was already understood that I would pass on this knowledge to my friends that were expecting babies and one-day use it for my own baby. I did not understand at that time how subversive babywearing remains in our culture today or how far we are from returning to a common tradition of each generation teaching the next how to carry our babies on our bodies.

Once I did have my own child I began to appreciate babywearing at a whole new level and it quickly became part of my day-to-day life. With each new carrier I tried and each new carry I mastered I was more excited to share my new knowledge with my friends and family. I continued to learn much more from my cousin, the internet, and attending my local community babywearing meetings. I began volunteering regularly with BWI Seattle to help others find effective and comfortable ways to carry their children, and I soon decided I wanted as much training and education as possible so that I could be more effective as an educator. I attended the Center for Babywearing Studies' Foundations course in NYC to learn more about sharing babywearing and become certified. The depth and breadth of material we covered impressed and amazed me. I am continually working to build on my skills as a consultant with the objective of fully supporting each parent's goals on their own journey.

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I attended the baby-wearing workshop at Matka today and found it really helpful and informative. We got to see a selection of carriers and demonstration of a few as well as having any questions we had re: baby-wearing answered. She really knows her stuff. Nice venue, too.