Happiness - Kids & Family

26/02/2025

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09/10/2024

Kids aren’t your husband or life partner; they’ll have their own life and eventually their own partner.

As parents, it’s easy to feel as though we are the center of their world, but that’s only true for a small window of time. Our role is to nurture them, guide them, and equip them to face the world, but never to hold them back from spreading their wings.

As they grow, we must remember that the foundation we lay for them is meant to give them strength, not chains. They will form their own dreams, passions, and relationships that will shape the course of their lives.

And while we are there to support and love them unconditionally, they are not ours to possess or control.

It's important to let them experience life on their terms, even if it means stepping back when we'd prefer to hold on tighter.

One of the hardest lessons in parenting is learning to let go. It’s an act of trust and faith — faith in the upbringing we’ve given them and trust in their ability to navigate their journey.

Our children aren’t meant to fill the voids in our lives or compensate for unmet expectations we may have. They are unique souls on their own path, and our job is to walk alongside them for as long as they need us, not to walk in front of them or carry them.

We also must realize that, in a way, children reflect what we show them in our relationships. If we pour everything into them at the expense of nurturing our partnership with our spouse, they may grow up with a distorted view of what love and commitment look like.

By maintaining a loving and supportive relationship with our life partner, we demonstrate the value of partnership and the balance between familial bonds and romantic ones.

The relationship we have with our children will evolve over time, shifting from one of dependency to one of mutual respect and admiration.

They will move forward, forging their own paths, and one day, they may become the parents in the same role we are in now. The cycle continues, and it's essential to accept that this natural progression is part of life's beauty.

It's vital to prepare ourselves emotionally for that day when their primary attachment will no longer be us, but someone else. It doesn’t mean we lose them; it just means their circle of love expands, and we need to make space for others in their lives.

Being able to celebrate their growth, their partnerships, and their future families is a testament to the love and trust we’ve nurtured over the years.

As parents, we may find ourselves adjusting to an emptier house or less frequent calls, but that doesn’t diminish our role in their lives. The bond between parent and child is timeless, and no amount of physical or emotional distance can break that.

What we must aim for is a relationship built on mutual respect, where they feel empowered to come to us when they need guidance, not out of obligation or guilt, but out of love and trust.

In our role as life partners, it’s essential to maintain the connection with our spouse. When the children leave, we are left with the person we chose to build a life with, and that relationship deserves as much care and attention as any other.

It's crucial not to lose sight of this bond during the busy years of parenting, for it's the love between partners that will carry us through all phases of life, even when the children are no longer in our care.

Parenthood is a journey of giving — we give our love, time, and effort to raise the next generation, but we must also take care of ourselves and our own relationship.

As the kids grow and go, we need to remain grounded in our connection with our spouse, ensuring that this relationship stands strong as the central pillar of our family.

The greatest gift we can give our children is the example of a healthy, loving relationship between their parents.

This allows them to form their own strong bonds in life, knowing that love, independence, and mutual respect can coexist.

Our kids aren’t our life partners, but through our example, they learn what it means to build meaningful, lasting relationships of their own.

- Abhikesh

30/09/2024

I heard my mother asking the neighbors for salt. But we had salt at home. I asked her why she asked the neighbors for salt. And she replied, 'Because our neighbors don't have a lot of money, and they often ask us for something. From time to time, I also ask them for something small and inexpensive, so they feel that we need them too. This way, they will feel more comfortable and it will be easier to continue asking us for everything they need.'
And that's what I learned from my mother... let's raise empathetic, humble, and supportive children with too many values to mention!👇 😊

20/06/2024

A woman from kenya took her husband's Phone and checked his Facebook activities; she saw romantic chats with women. She sat down and thought of a way to separate him from the women. She came up with a beautiful idea, without even the husband's knowledge. She came up with the following methods

1- She copied all his chats with one of the women.

2- She opened a new Facebook account with a Male name.

3- She sent a friend request to the husband, he accepted the request.

4 - She introduced herself to him. She said "I'm Abu Dar'daee by name, a Member of BOKO HARAM. I saw all your chats with my wife. I want to warn you to stay away from her if you really want to remain alive. To clear any element of doubt, I have all the chats with me and here they are, you can see.

5- So, if you don't stop chatting with my wife, I'll s laughter you like Ram.
6- I know you. I know your name is Jamilu, your father's name is Mohammed, your mother's name Khadija, you have 3 children. Al'ameen, Zahara and Yusuf. Abdulrahman is your best friend and Usman is your neighbor. You are a Lecturer working at FCE. You also go to work 9:30am with your friend Usman, you follow Jambutu street and you spend time together. I'm warning you if you dare call, text or chat with my wife again, I will slaughter you like a Ram as I said earlier".

The wife was close to him while he read the message. As he was reading it, he kept sniffing and repeating Innalillahi WA innaillaihirraji'un. She asked him what happened, he said nothing. He immediately deleted his Facebook and Whatsapp apps and every other social media app.

The following morning, he went and sold the phone in the market and bought an ordinary Nokia. He told his wife to always wake him when ever it's time for prayers.

The woman said since that day, her husband has been observing prayers regularly and spending more time with the family.

Isn't that better than settling the matter with a knife?

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20/06/2024

Be careful who you date and marry, for the biggest prison in the world is a home without peace. The person you choose to share your life with will profoundly impact your happiness, well-being, and overall life trajectory. It’s crucial to understand the importance of selecting a partner who adds to your peace, not one who drains it. This is especially true when dealing with narcissists, often referred to as toxic energy vampires, who are skilled at playing games and manipulating people.

Narcissists can be incredibly charming and persuasive at the beginning of a relationship. They are experts in creating an illusion of a perfect partner, often referred to as "love bombing." During this phase, they will shower you with affection, compliments, and attention, making you feel exceptionally special and valued. This intense flattery and focus can be intoxicating, leading you to believe you've found someone extraordinary. However, this is a tactic to quickly win your trust and devotion.

Once they have secured your affection, narcissists often begin to shift their behavior subtly. They may start to devalue you through criticism, manipulation, and control, all while maintaining a facade of charm and concern. This gradual shift can be confusing and disorienting, leaving you questioning your own perceptions and feelings. Narcissists are skilled at gaslighting, a manipulative tactic designed to make you doubt your reality and become increasingly dependent on their approval and validation.

In relationships with narcissists, the highs and lows can be extreme. They might alternate between periods of affection and validation and periods of coldness and criticism. This cycle creates a rollercoaster of emotions, keeping you off balance and focused on regaining their approval. This dynamic is emotionally exhausting and can lead to a significant loss of self-esteem and self-worth over time.

A home with a narcissist is often filled with tension and conflict. Narcissists thrive on control and dominance, frequently disregarding your needs and feelings. Their inability to empathize with others can lead to a lack of genuine connection and mutual respect. Living in such an environment can feel like a constant battle, draining your energy and undermining your peace and happiness.

It's essential to recognize the signs of narcissistic behavior early in a relationship to protect your well-being. Look for red flags such as excessive self-centeredness, a lack of empathy, a need for constant admiration, and a tendency to manipulate and control. Trust your instincts and prioritize your peace and happiness. Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial when dealing with potential narcissists.

In summary, be careful who you date and marry because the biggest prison in the world is a home without peace. Narcissists, or toxic energy vampires, are adept at playing games and manipulating people to secure their own needs and desires. By understanding their tactics and remaining vigilant, you can protect yourself from entering a relationship that drains your energy and undermines your peace. Your home should be a sanctuary of love, respect, and tranquility, not a battleground for dominance and control. Choose wisely, and prioritize your peace above all else.