06/14/2019
π¨***Long Post Alert***π¨
Raising a Black, Teenage, π€, Witty & Funny, Kind (when he wants to be), Athletic(when he feels like it), Open-minded, Thoughtful (the list could go on) ...Young Man is not easy!!! Lord knows if the walls in our house could talk you would hear some things! π
π¬. Shannon & I had Isaiah so young... we made the mistake of not having certain conversations... like β how do we want to raise our sonβ π€ π ....we had, nor Have not One plan π€·πΎββοΈπ, a guide, a map....just out here winging it on some prayers! ππΎπ€¦πΎββοΈ To be honest it does cause friction because while we both obviously want whatβs best for this young man...we have our own ideas and ways we want to go about it. One of us wants to use a little more finesse while the other wants to use a little more force π. Itβs all good though because as it turns out...itβs quite possible our son needs both. He needs the best each of us has to offer.
As a privileged teenager...he is far from perfect...but we have such high expectations for him that we easily get disappointed when heβs just being typical. Like if he brings home an βA-β I literally will tell him to write down 3ways heβs gonna bring that grade up cause itβs too close to a βBβπ€£π€¦πΎββοΈ. Dad be ready to exile the child to his room forever and take his phone for good cause he forgot to take the trash out for the millionth time. Like our issues with him arenβt even major...and that lets me know how much of a good kid he is...now Heβs a teenager & has gotten caught up in du***ss teenage stuff as well...but it doesnβt change who is inherently is.
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Weβre doing a decent job as parents. π
This world wonβt be as forgiving & understanding to our teenage son as we are, simply because of how he looks...but I have learned during these early teenage years to not let that fear (or any others) be what guides us in parenting him.
Love has to be at the root of everything...otherwise thatβs when ish gets crazy π!
(Iβm not debating this...these are My thoughts & opinions based on My experience π)
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