19/01/2022
DEVELOPING YOUR SUCCESS INTELLIGENCE
One reason that being an academic or school educated doesn't guarantee success in life is because there is more than one intelligence recognized in life.
In the school of success, there are three major intelligence recognized and you need to develop the three if you really want to be successful
1. Interpersonal intelligence
2. Intrapersonal intelligence/ emotional intelligence
3. Financial intelligence
Today I will be discussing intrapersonal or emotional intelligence
Over the years I have taken my time to study successful people on earth and I have discovered they all have this three intelligence in common, but of all these intelligence, emotional intelligence is the most important of all
Intrapersonal intelligence is often called emotional intelligence. I will use more of emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence refers to having a deep understanding of yourself, knowing your own strengths and weakness and what makes you unique with the ability to handle reactions and emotions
Emotional intelligence is crucial for success in almost any field or profession. It is crucial for high stress environments especially when times are tough and a person wants to quit or is fearful
Emotional intelligence does not mean being void of emotions. Emotional intelligence means you know it is okay to be angry just not out of control with anger. You know it's okay to feel hurt but it is not okay to do something stupid in the name of revenge
We know people who are highly emotional, rather than think logically, highly emotional people tend to let their emotions run their lives, often saying or doing something they may later regret.
Addictions are often caused by lack of emotional intelligence. When frustrated, angry or fearful, a person may eat, drink, have s*x, or do drugs to numb the emotional pain. Some People go shopping when bored, spend money they do not have etc all this are example of lack of emotional intelligence
On the positive side, we all know people who have been subjected to extreme abuse and have risen above it. Greatness is often a reflection of a person with high emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence is often equated with success intelligence because successful people are successful at manging their emotions, especially in stressful situation
These are all comments describing a person with high emotional intelligence and they comment made about successful people
👉🏼She is cool under pressure. He achieve his goals. He controls his temper. He quit smoking five years ago. She is a woman of her words. She doesn't make excuses etc
But for people that lack emotional Intelligence you hear comment as follows
👉🏼 She will always blame someone else for her mistake. You can't trust him. He loses his temper easily. She's greedy. She loves gossip. He smiles and then stabs you in the back. He can't take criticism etc
Let me tell you one beautiful truth today, one of the reasons some people fail in life is not because one witch is following them from village, or because they are cursed or not a born again Christian. It is largely because they fail to develop their emotional intelligence.
It is this lack of emotional development that often hinder adults in the real world.
Many adults spend their lives doing what they want to do rather than doing what they need to do
See People rate you from your inner response to situation around you, you have the tendencies to over come any challenges when you are emotional intelligent.
Discipline is the bed rock for any high flier in life and the level of their discipline can be measured from their emotional reaction
Emotional intelligence is essential for long term success. In practice it may mean:
👉🏼 Going to the gym rather than staying in bed
👉🏼Taking financial education classes even if you don't want to
👉🏼 Telling the truth, even if it makes you look bad or stupid
👉🏼 Volunteering even when you are busy
👉🏼 Turning the TV off and spending time with you book, or family, especially, if your favorite show is on
👉🏼 Closing your social media page and taking time to study or research on Google
👉🏼 Not having a drink, even if you want one
👉🏼Waking up at 4am to study when you're even enjoying the sleep
👉🏼 Stoping a character that will ruin you.
All these are sign of emotional development and disciplined. Those that take intentional act on these are emotionally intelligent and heading for success in life
In Conclusion, success is not an accidental act, it is a deliberate act over a long period of time. All successful people are emotionally intelligent and take deliberate action to achieve their goals in life.
Develop your emotion, success will come around knocking at your door.
I am
Opeyemi
Business Management Expert
