01/29/2020
Let’s talk.
Mental health.
What I know now vs what I didn’t know 2 years ago is the ability to change my circumstances with my actions.
Ways to do that. Talk. Talk to someone seek professional help and try to understand the cause / source. Once you are aware of why, it’ll be (easier) to progress.
Here’s what has worked for me, if you find yourself in a similar spot (grateful, loving person who is optimistic, present and aware but with the occasional sense of sadness because .. life, weather, anxiety, complexities) .. this is how I deal.
I do a self check in:
- Why do I feel this way, (was it something I saw? Watched? Heard? Felt?)
- Has there been something in my life that has shaken me ? I.e friends, family, work school
-Am I drinking enough water?
Have I eaten well or poorly?
Have I gone to the gym?
Have I hugged someone today?
Once I go through (my own personal list) and a. I’ve recognized the issue and responded to accordingly and Still feel sh*tty, I talk to my partner. This could be your spouse a friend parent. Someone you TRUST. That knows YOU.
from here sometimes the act of communicating and getting my feelings out in the air is constructive and helpful.
At this point for most cases I can repeat options a. Think 🤔, drink 💦, eat 🍎, sweat 🏃🏼♀️, and talk/ pray / meditate 🙏🏻 or
If both a and b aren’t working I then have a choice. I can sit in my thoughts, dark, and stay there which feels awful and see how long I can handle the disturbed state. or I can continue the process of understanding and tuning into my needs. A & B
This is what works for me. There are many cases that require further action, therapy, medication etc etc however what I know now vs what I didn’t know two years ago is that I have a lot of control. I hold the keys to my life and it is MY first responsibility to take care of me.
I want to stress that Self LOVE is the most important relationship you will ever have. Without it you can’t give it and you can’t share it.
If this is helpful to anyone, let me know. I am a good listener and understand the seriousness and scaryness of sometimes just opening up. It starts with listening to yourself. 💕