14/05/2026
I want to talk about death work and self care, and how we need to make time to rest and recover.
It’s one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned over seven years of being a celebrant. Two very simple words.
Rest matters.
Rest and practicing self care are radical acts in a capitalist society like ours, where our worth is so often judged by how busy we are.
Doing this work is the biggest privilege, but at the same time, holding space for bereavement and all the emotions that come with it can take its toll.
Our bodies know. They tell us all the time when we need to rest, but we don’t always feel free to listen. That needs to change.
An important reminder for
I’ve always tried to do one of three things after each funeral that I lead.
🌿 Spend some time outside, often just being still. No phone, no distractions. It’s the best medicine.
🧵 Half an hour of stitching. Doing something creative, using my hands to make something… that taps into the part of my brain that helps me switch off.
🐾 Spending time stroking my small army of guinea pigs, and listening to them chatter away to each other. It never fails to calm me.
What’s your favourite way to rest and recover?
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I’m Alex, a Cambridge based creative death worker and funeral celebrant, and I help people plan down to earth, authentic and colourful goodbyes. Follow along for more ideas and inspiration 🧡🌈
