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Kirsty Duncan Writes Runs after a toddler and writes children’s picture books 🤓

08/06/2026

Our littlest drifted off for her nap with her hand in mine.

Just checking I was still there.

I’m here, my love. Always.

Alwaysssssssssssssssss 😂😂

To Bridget Porter, who said IVF was a lifestyle choice and compared it to a b**b job….That’s an impressively ignorant ta...
08/06/2026

To Bridget Porter, who said IVF was a lifestyle choice and compared it to a b**b job….

That’s an impressively ignorant take on something that has helped millions of families.

In the UK, 100,000 babies were born through IVF in the last 5 years…and with Reforms concern about birth rates, the future workforce and economic growth, dismissing IVF seems a rather silly stance for a political party to take. Bless.

So yes, in summary Bridget love and , from me and all my IVF pals…f**k off back on the horse you rode in on.

There’s something incredibly special about writing a book inspired by your first child, then finding yourself reliving t...
05/06/2026

There’s something incredibly special about writing a book inspired by your first child, then finding yourself reliving those same beautiful moments with your second 🩷🤍

If you’re looking for a book that celebrates the reality of longer-term breastfeeding and co-sleeping…and one that’s been peer-reviewed and endorsed by respected IBCLC lactation consultants inclLLLGBtt, Lucy Webber and La Leche League GB…comment BFBOOK and I’ll send you the details!

03/06/2026

What does gentle parenting mean to you?

For me, it’s raging on the inside whilst smiling on the outside.

It’s asking them to listen, then escalating when they don’t, then realising I’m not actually asking them to listen. I’m asking them to ‘do as they’re told’, just like my parents used to say.

Oh snap.

Wait. What?

It’s repeating ‘be kind, be kind, be kind’ when my daughter changes her mind about which teddy she’s taking to school. Just as we’re leaving. When we’re already late. After she’s already changed her mind twice.

It’s being completely touched out and giving death stares to the cat, daring her to come near me. Sorry, Nala.

It’s shouting. Then saying sorry.

Then learning that repair matters most, so saying sorry again. With more hugs.

Sorry again, Nala. Oh yes, and the kids.

It’s trying not to hyper-lecture in the moment. Then catching myself hyper-lecturing. Then hyper-lecturing myself during the hyper-lecture about not hyper-lecturing.

It’s feeling guilty about screen time. Then asking if they want to watch The Masked Singer because Piranha is your favourite.

It’s being the sugar police, but not too much. Like a sugar police officer who’s currently under investigation for not doing their job properly. But still worrying about sugar.

It’s using ChatGPT as a parental therapist with topics such as, ‘how do I get my 5-year-old to sleep longer without losing it?’ or ‘WHY WON’T MY CHILD LISTENNNNNNNNN.’ Then feeling guilty about water consumption.

But mostly…

It’s eating chocolate after they’ve gone to bed and telling myself I’ll try again tomorrow.

Oh, to be a gentle parent.

01/06/2026

My birth wasn’t on my birth plan. Here’s why it still mattered.

When people talk about birth plans, the conversation often centres around whether things went “to plan”.

Did you get the birthing pool?

The environment you prepped for?

The birth you imagined?

My birth wasn’t on my birth plan at all.

I delivered our second daughter at home in 15 contractions - 55 minutes from start to finish. There was no time to work through preferences or get the environment just right.

But that doesn’t mean my birth plan was a waste of time.

It gave us space and clarity to:
- Consider our options
- Talk through different scenarios
- Explore the benefits and risks of interventions
- Think about what matters most

Not because every possibility will happen. But because birth can be unpredictable.

And when things don’t go as planned, knowledge is power.

Whilst our birth wasn’t on our plan, the knowledge, preparation and confidence that led to it was. Our plan gave me the confidence to listen to my body, consider the risks and make an informed choice, together with my husband. And when we made that choice, ten minutes later our daughter was born.

A birth plan isn’t about getting the “perfect” birth. It’s about feeling informed, prepared and able to make decisions, whatever path your birth takes.

Did your birth happen the way you expected?

In the last couple of months our 5 year old daughter has fallen in love with The Masked Singer, and we’ve been working o...
20/05/2026

In the last couple of months our 5 year old daughter has fallen in love with The Masked Singer, and we’ve been working our way through the entire back catalogue ⭐️🕺🏼

She came home from school today with these awesome drawings. Can you guess which characters she’s drawn from the show?!?!

maskedsingeruk
maskedsingerfox

18/05/2026

How we transitioned our co-sleeping 5-year-old when the baby arrived…

Oh wait. We didn’t 😂

A lot of people asked if our setup would change, a totally natural question to ask.

But honestly:

* We knew our daughter wasn’t ready to stop co-sleeping yet
* Transitioning her to sleeping alone, when co-sleeping is all she’s ever known, didn’t feel right…at all
* And for once, I didn’t want to overthink what a clusterfudge it might be navigating both a school-aged sleep evader and a newborn at the same time 🙈

For now, we’re doing what works for our family, getting as much sleep as we can, and trusting that she’ll be ready in her own time.

How have you navigated co-sleeping?

26/04/2026

As a second-time mum, it’s incredibly freeing to trust my gut, and not be crippled by overwhelming anxiety of doing something wrong, like the first time around. It’s a big topic I’ll probably write more about at some stage.

This time is about embracing the short seasons of change, and striving for good enough, not perfect.

If you’re a second time mum, what did your transition feel like?

No one really talks about how longer-term breastfeeding ends.Stopping breastfeeding and announcing our pregnancy back-to...
21/04/2026

No one really talks about how longer-term breastfeeding ends.

Stopping breastfeeding and announcing our pregnancy back-to-back wasn’t a coincidence.

My milk was drying up, the first trimester was 🤢 and suddenly… something that had always felt easy, just wasn’t.

In reality, our daughter had already self-weaned to one tiny bedtime feed.
But emotionally for her, not tiny at all.

Her version of a glass of wine.
A bar of chocolate.
A cup of tea and a custard cream before bed 😂

If someone tried to take my chocolate away, may the gods smite them down with furious vengeance 😂

I framed it as a pause, not a full stop.
Something less final for her to process. And I meant it.

When my milk was back, I waited. But she only asked once, out of curiosity…and found she’d totally forgotten what to do!

Was she sad? A little.
But the transition…honestly…way easier than I ever imagined.

Absolute props to be honest my girl 💪

Looking back, I’m so glad we reached a point where we could talk it through together and let it end gently 🤍

What was your experience of breastfeeding ending?

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