28/12/2020
Christmas is a time when people expect us to be jolly and we might feel like we aren't allowed to be unhappy. But it's perfectly normal to be sad at this time of year just like any other and especially during a year where it feels like everything has gone to s**t! So this is the first in a series of AllSome tips on how to improve happiness :)
Mindfulness is the practice of being present. The word may sound a bit "woo woo" but, in its simplest form, just means reducing distractions and being focused on whatever is happening right now. In an age of on-demand information, we are bombarded with constant distractions and our attentions flit from one thing to another. Our heads are filled with worries about past events that can no longer be changed, future possibilities that may never happen and alternate lives that we see on Social Media. Instead we could be focusing on what's happening right now. Enjoying time spent with those around us and appreciating the things we have or have access to. The benefits of mindfulness are widespread, ranging from better focus, clarity and efficiency on work and projects, being more observant to other people and their needs, to books and media, and most importantly observing our own needs and requirements. Mindfulness makes us more introspective and gives an insight into how we're really feeling and why we feel that way.
Unfortunately, mindfulness practice isn't easy or a quick fix but nothing worthwhile is and that's kind of the point. It teaches the importance of habits and discipline which in turn make mindfulness easier! While not easy, it is simple and all you have to do to practice is focus. Try sitting still and focusing on your breath going in and out of your body and you can very quickly realise how bad at this most of us are. Our minds wander to other thoughts or distractions within seconds and we have to constantly keep bringing the focus back to the breath. This simple practice of focusing on the breath is the basic premise of mindfulness meditation. I am by no means an expert in meditation or mindfulness so I'll leave the in-depth instructions to the professionals. But I highly recommend an app called insight timer which a can be used for timed meditation and also has a collection of guided courses, free and paid. Two well known teachers, Jack Kornfield and Tara Brach, have a great introduction course called "Mindfulness Daily" which is free and highly recommended. However, whilst apps such as this are useful be weary of falling into the trap of constantly searching for new courses and "techniques". Mindfulness is extremely simple and repetitive and that's the point. It's not another skill to become good at and it may well feel like it's "not working" but stick with it and the happier future you will be thankful. 😊
