22/09/2024
Be careful Depression is real. Understand your triggers you are the only subject in this life , I was broken when My brother inlaw chose himself , there is nothing as bad as feeling alone in the world full of people. Be careful of isolation, that moment you feel like its enough is the beginning of your greatness. Travel to the village ,go see your grandma, great grand ma
Forgiveness and reconciliation are two very different things, and it’s important to understand the difference.
Forgiveness is about letting go of the pain caused by a breakup or betrayal. It’s about accepting that life must go on and recognizing that to live a positive life, you need to release the negative energy that’s holding you back. Holding a grudge is like carrying negative energy inside you—letting go frees you. At the same time, it’s important to create boundaries to protect your peace.
Reconciliation, on the other hand, is a whole different subject. Before you consider reconciling with someone who hurt, betrayed, or embarrassed you, ask yourself a few questions:
How long did I stay without them?
How was my mental health during that time?
How long did it take me to heal and pick myself up again?
What caused our breakup?
How many chances did I give them, and how did they misuse them?
How did that make me feel?
Before you start the journey of reconciliation, especially if it involves betrayal, manipulation, or gaslighting, make sure you’re prepared. Have your medical insurance and even your death insurance ready, because we won’t contribute to your early departure! You need to understand that trust, once broken, is like looking into a shattered mirror. Unless both of you are stuck in a trauma bond, where you rely on each other’s emotional burdens, it’s not wise to rush into reconciliation.
Forgive those who hurt you, but reconcile with them at your own risk.
I’m currently alone, just with Nelly and my kids, and trust me—my space is very peaceful. My circle is so small, and there are fewer wounds to heal. I don’t even remember the last time I had to explain myself, and I’ve stopped discussing issues that don’t concern me. I’ve found true peace in building boundaries.
May you heal from what broke you
Esther Akoth Kokeyo