Women of Worth

01/02/2022

Mental Health First Aid: How to Help a Person with Suicidal Thoughts.

Did you know?
According to World Health Organization (2021)
-That more than 700, 000 people die due to su***de every year.
-For every su***de there are many more people who attempt su***de.
-A prior su***de attempt is the single most important risk factor for su***de in the general population.
-Su***de is the fourth leading cause of death among 15-19 year-olds. Ingestion of pesticide, hanging and fi****ms are among the most common methods of su***de globally.

Do you know someone who committed su***de? Do you know a person who's struggling with suicidal thoughts? Or have you ever had suicidal thoughts or still struggling with suicidal thoughts? Here are the mental health first aid that we should remember for us to help our self or someone who's struggling with suicidal thoughts.

1. LISTEN
If you have someone who's struggling mentally, listen to them carefully in their words and actions. Seek for the signs on their words or action if they are having suicidal thoughts.

2.ASK DIRECTLY
Asking the question “Are you thinking about su***de?” communicates that you’re open to speaking about su***de in a non-judgmental and supportive way. Because there are times that you'll never know if you never ask.

3. BE THERE
This could mean being physically present for someone, speaking with them on the phone when you can, or any other way that shows support for the person at risk. An important aspect of this step is to make sure you follow through with the ways in which you say you’ll be able to support the person, do not commit to anything you are not willing or able to accomplish.

4. KEEP THEM SAFE
Help them focus on their reasons for living and avoid trying to impose your reasons for them to stay alive. Have they already done anything to try to kill themselves before talking with you? Does the person experiencing thoughts of su***de know how they would kill themselves? Do they have a specific, detailed plan? What’s the timing for their plan? What sort of access do they have to their planned method?

5. HELP THEM CONNECT
Helping someone with thoughts of su***de connect with ongoing supports (like the Lifeline, 800-273-8255) can help them establish a safety net for those moments they find themselves in a crisis. Additional components of a safety net might be connecting them with supports and resources in their communities.

6. FOLLOW UP
After your initial contact with a person experiencing thoughts of su***de, and after you’ve connected them with the immediate support systems they need, make sure to follow-up with them to see how they’re doing. Leave a message, send a text, or give them a call. The follow-up step is a great follow uptime to check in with them to see if there is more you are capable of helping with or if there are things you’ve said you would do and haven’t yet had the chance to get done for the person.

Share your thoughts about this topic on the comment section.

31/01/2022

Have you ever felt like no matter what positive motivation given to you by your friends or family, you still feel like the situation is not getting better? Did someone told you their problems and you want to cheer them up by turning the negatives vibes to positive one? Don’t get me wrong, being positive is very powerful however it is not always the best option for other people. As someone who people shared their stories with, we should acknowledge their negative feelings and made them feel validated. We must carefully think what we say to other people even we care about them so much some words are not still helpful.

Here is the chart that will provide you guidance on what Toxic Positivity is and how to change it into Hope and Validation:
TOXIC POSITIVITY:
1. You’ll get over this!
-Do not make them feel that their situations will be easily ended through time. You have to understand that we have perception or views about a circumstance which means that what is easy for you may not be easy to another person.
2. Just be positive!
-Motivating someone you care about is fine but you have to keep in mind their feelings. If they feel the negativity then you have to make sure that you made them feel valid and not in the way you carry your problems.
3. Never give up!
-There are some people that view giving up is a difficult choice to create. We don’t share the same value in life but what we can do is to let them decide what decision they will create. Let them re-evaluate their choice to continue or choose different path what is important is you stand as their support system.
4. Stop being negative!
-Do not dictate them what should not feel because if you keep on pushing them to not have negative thoughts then they might experience the shame or guilt that there is something wrong with their emotion.
5. It could be worse!
You should encourage this person to accept their situation whatever the outcome is. It is better for them to face challenges in their lives to help grow and mature in life.
HOPE AND VALIDATION
1. This is hard. You’ve done hard things before and I believe you!
-Make them feel that you stand as their support system and you believe in their capabilities hard times and be the person that they care share their problems with.
2. I know there’s a lot that could go wrong. What could go right?
-Encourage the person to look things in different ways by thinking what could happen next to lessen their worries about the mistakes that might happened.
3. What is your ideal outcome? Let’s walk through the options.
-You let the people you love create their options and goals that they are looking forward. You don’t have to decide to them but you have to make sure that they have control over the situation and they have options to look into.
4. It’s pretty normal to have some negative feelings in this situation.
-You have to make them feel that their emotions are valid and you need to assure them that no matter what the situation is they got you to support them.
5. It’s probably really hard to see any good things in this situation.
-If they feel the negative emotions then let them feel it. The things that you can do are to listen and let them talk about their situation without telling them that there’s something wrong with what they feel.

Source: https://brightvibes.com/1276/en/this-helpful-chart-explains-the-difference-between-support-and-dismiss

Share your experience regarding toxic positivity on the comment section!

27/01/2022

Did you encounter a situation where your friends or family cannot handle the stress and pressure that they are going through but you have no idea what to do? You may be thinking what help can you offer or if you are doing the right action during their mental health crisis. Being a support system for them we should know that we have the capability to comfort them throughout their endurance with anxiety and stress. We should learn ways on how we can support someone during their battle of overcoming their mental challenges.

Here are the 4 ways you can help to a person dealing with nervous breakdown:
1. Create a safe and calm environment.
- You have to make sure that the places you are with are away from harmful objects and it must also be emotionally safe for individual to not feel any stress. You must remove all the distractions and unnecessary either things or people.
2. Listen without judgment.
- A person with mental breakdown may listen to you if you are calm and showing no intention that you will judge them. You have to make feel that you are willing to listen about their situation.
3. Encourage treatment
- They are experience a challenging situation that should not be taken lightly and one of the best options is through the help of professionals. But you should encourage them in a comfortable manner and enlighten them that this can be the decision that they could make.
4. Help them make lifestyle changes
- In the process of coping with the stress and anxiety you can help by assuring they are practicing self-care, eating healthy foods, exercise and encourage them to do what would bring them relaxation or going back to the hobby that they enjoy before.

Have you ever helped a person having a mental health breakdown? Or have you experienced having one? And if yes, how would you like a person to help you? Share it in the comment section 💚✨

21/01/2022

Here For You: How to Support Someone With A Mental Health Condition ♥️

Have you ever been in a situation when a friend or a loved one is dealing with mental illness and opened up to you, but you don't know what to say? You may experience loss of words on what say to them. You want to offer comfort and support but you are worried about how your words will be interpreted. As a listener, we should be watchful of the words that we'll say, in order for them to feel that we really care, and that we are truly here for them. We must learn the lines to avoid that can make them feel that their feelings is neglected or invalid.

So here's the 5 phrases to say and 5 not to say to someone with a Mental Health Condition:

TO SAY 👄👍🏻💯
1. "Do you want to talk about it? I'm always here for you."
🌷Make them feel that you care for them and that you are ready to listen and talk about their problems.
2. "What can I do to help?"
🌷You can always ask if you can do something for them to feel better such as staying with them, going to places or eating with them.
3. "I'm really sorry you're going through this. I'm here for you if you need me."
🌷Make them feel that their feelings are valid, that you feel sorry because they are going through this and that you are always one call away if ever they need to vent out again or if they need you to be with them again.
4. "Are you looking for my perspective or would you rather I listen?"
🌷Remember that there are people who just want to feel that they are heard but not yet actually ready to hear our side, so always make sure to ask what they prefer.
5. "Let's go somewhere quiet or take a walk"
🌷If you are in a place full of people, ask if they want to go somewhere quiet and peaceful so that they can be able to vent out comfortably.

NOT TO SAY 👄❌
1. "I know what you mean. I had a panic attack when I saw our bills!"
🌷Do not make them feel that what they are feeling is just normal, or belittling what they feel. Because we don't truly know it unless we are in their shoes, so don't invalidate their feelings and compare it to yours.
2. "Why aren't you seeing a therapist?" or "Why aren't you on medication?"
🌷 While it's fine to show concern for a friend, remarks like these can come across as accusatory. Again, if the person says they feel like they have no options, you might say, "I always hear about therapy and medication, what are your thoughts on those?" Remember that this is a decision that is ultimately theirs to make.
3. "Are you OK?!"
🌷 This question can make your loved one feel pressured to get better immediately, which is rarely the case for mental health. They may also feel like they have to tell you they're fine, even if that is not true.
4. "There are lots of people who have it much worse than you."
🌷 Remarks like this encourage your loved one to compare themselves to others. You should encourage them to let go of comparing themselves to others and instead focus on what's best for them.
5. "You wouldn't feel this way if…"
🌷 Mental health issues and their causes are complex, and many people wear themselves out emotionally by searching for the causes of their suffering. Placing blame leads to unnecessary distress and takes time from increasing understanding of what is going on.

Do you have any experiences about venting out to someone and regretting it because you felt that your feelings are invalidated by the person? Can you share it through the comment section? We love to hear it! ♥️💯

01/10/2021

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23/07/2021

Hello, lovely ladies. The qualities of a godly woman are clearly outlined in God’s word. Do you want to be the woman God created you to be? Join us this Friday 8:00 PM, as we talk about the Lord's instructions to His daughters. Connecting the woman of God with the truth. Come and be a blessing.
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23/07/2021

Hello, lovely ladies. The qualities of a godly woman are clearly outlined in God’s word. Do you want to be the woman God created you to be? Join us this Friday 8:00 PM, as we talk about the Lord's instructions to His daughters. Connecting the woman of God with the truth. Come and be a blessing.

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15/08/2020

Blessed Sunday Morning everyone 💖

Today is Lord's day, y'all ready for worship?

Here's a short devotion to start your day right 💗

ᴘꜱᴀʟᴍ 37:5-7

5 ᴄᴏᴍᴍɪᴛ ᴛʜʏ ᴡᴀʏ ᴜɴᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇ ʟᴏʀᴅ; ᴛʀᴜꜱᴛ ᴀʟꜱᴏ ɪɴ ʜɪᴍ; ᴀɴᴅ ʜᴇ ꜱʜᴀʟʟ ʙʀɪɴɢ ɪᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀꜱꜱ.

6 ᴀɴᴅ ʜᴇ ꜱʜᴀʟʟ ʙʀɪɴɢ ꜰᴏʀᴛʜ ᴛʜʏ ʀɪɢʜᴛᴇᴏᴜꜱɴᴇꜱꜱ ᴀꜱ ᴛʜᴇ ʟɪɢʜᴛ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜʏ ᴊᴜᴅɢᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴀꜱ ᴛʜᴇ ɴᴏᴏɴᴅᴀʏ.

7 ʀᴇꜱᴛ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ʟᴏʀᴅ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴡᴀɪᴛ ᴘᴀᴛɪᴇɴᴛʟʏ ꜰᴏʀ ʜɪᴍ: ꜰʀᴇᴛ ɴᴏᴛ ᴛʜʏꜱᴇʟꜰ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ᴏꜰ ʜɪᴍ ᴡʜᴏ ᴘʀᴏꜱᴘᴇʀᴇᴛʜ ɪɴ ʜɪꜱ ᴡᴀʏ, ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜꜱᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇ ᴍᴀɴ ᴡʜᴏ ʙʀɪɴɢᴇᴛʜ ᴡɪᴄᴋᴇᴅ ᴅᴇᴠɪᴄᴇꜱ ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀꜱꜱ.

It is hard sometimes to be patient, especially if something is taking a long time to come to fruition. But God calls us to trust in Him and be patient. He will act. He will be there for us. We are to commit to Him and trust Him.

Sometimes that does mean waiting patiently for Him. That wait may mean a long time of patience but He is faithful. He wants what is best for us and will use that time of waiting to make us more like Him. And when the time comes we will be ready if we trust and wait for Him.

This week, let us commit to the Lord and let us trust in the work that He is doing in and through us.

Burgett (2016)

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