11/07/2021
𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗮𝗰𝗸𝗹𝗲 '𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴-𝗠𝗼𝗺 𝗚𝘂𝗶𝗹𝘁'
Author and journalist Amy Westervelt in her book Forget Having It All writes
“We expect women to work like they don’t have children, and raise children as if they don’t work.”
Because of this dilemma women feel guilty when they work; Guilty of not spending time with their kids, guilty of not listening their stories, guilty of missing them growing up.
The question is how to balance this work-home life!
Based on research published in Harvard Business Review by
Sheryl G. Ziegler, Psy.D., the author of Mommy Burnout: How to Reclaim Your Life and Raise Healthier Children in the Process, here are few solutions to your problems.
1. 𝑲𝒆𝒆𝒑 𝑹𝒆𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇
Whenever you feel guilty of leaving your child behind in pursuance of your career, remind yourself why did you decide this at first.
Tell yourself “I made this decision because ___” and then take deep breaths and move on.
2. 𝑺𝒂𝒚 𝑵𝒐 𝒕𝒐 𝒖𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒂𝒓𝒚 𝑪𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒊𝒕𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔
Say No to unnecessary commitments from your schedule. For instance; learn to say No politely to meet ups with friends or family at least on weekends. Try to give all your time to your kid on weekends. This will not only make you feel better but also condition your kid to give you space on weekdays.
3. 𝑼𝒏𝒇𝒐𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘
Watching other moms playing with kids, spending time and sharing Pictures on social Media may disturb you further. Simply press the unfollow button for your own peace of mind.
4. 𝑮𝒆𝒕 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒑 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒔
In order to compensate, working Moms usually want to do everything on their own and Never ask help from others.
Remember, a kid can have good time with other kids, grandparents, aunts, uncles or neighbors.
Motherhood is all about sacrifices. Whether you're working or staying with them, keep reminding yourself, you're doing great and giving your best.