07/17/2017
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EASY DROP-OFFS....
Are not "easy."
I'm sorry, mommies and daddies. However, the good news is that with some time and patience, they can *become* easy π€.
As a childcare provider who has witnessed many-a-meltdown, I can promise that within 10 minutes of you leaving, your child will be smiling, laughing, and playing with his friends. But how could you leave your child when he is in a moment of distress? Well, that's where I'm here to help ππ»ππ»ππ»
1. Pain is temporary.
I don't mean that to sound heartless, but it is a good reminder that, while this isn't a fun experience, it won't last forever. When your child begins to cry because mom or dad is leaving, he is experiencing anxiety. He feels scared that he will be left at daycare forever and he will never see mom and dad again. I can guarantee that the longer you stick around and cater to your child's anxiety, the more anxious he will feel. By coming back for extra hugs, apologizing, and hanging around, you are showing your child that there is something to fear because you, too, are anxious about leaving. However, if you make the process just a quick goodbye and leave in confidence, your child will feel more confident that there is nothing to worry about. Eventually, he will jump out of the car on his own and run inside to play with just a simple, "Bye, mom!"
2. Remind your child that you are coming back.
As I stated earlier, these "tantrums" that get thrown at drop-off are anxiety attacks stemmed from a fear of abandonment. If you, as a parent, do not reinforce to your sweet babe that you are coming back at the end of the day, they will continue to fear that you are leaving forever. This idea will frighten your provider as well, so be sure to remind her that you are coming back, too π
3. Trust your provider.
The idea of leaving a child while they are upset can tie a parent's heart in knots. I have consoled many crying mommies who feel guilty for leaving their crying babies and before you know it, I'm in tears too and it's just a mess all around. But the fact of the matter is, unless you feel that your provider is not good for your child, (in which case I highly recommend seeking a new provider) you should try to exude confidence that she knows the proper way to console your fearful little one. By handing your kiddo right into the arms of the lady/gentleman who you trust to take excellent care for the next several hours, you are showing your child that this person is trustworthy. After you leave, your provider will give extra love and attention to your child and remind him that he is in a safe place. There is no replacement for a mother or fathers consolation, but this is a special situation that, in your absence, only your provider should handle. Before you know it, you'll receive a text with a picture of your baby's happy, smiling face reminding you that everything is great and you can stop beating yourself up.
At the end of the day, your little one will run and jump into your arms telling you how much fun he had, and how he wants to show you a cool new thing he learned and everything else that happened that day.
Have a wonderful week, all! I will see you again next Monday with another installment. Let me know in the comments what kind of tips you'd like! Any suggestions are appreciated!