The Wild Raspberry

05/16/2025

I share this, with Superman's permission. Marriage is hard work. But when a neurotypical person is married to a neurodiverse person, it's even harder, UNTIL YOU KNOW, and even after. But the NT spouse can learn and grow and help the ND spouse to grow and feel supported.

You can throw almost every book written on marriage in the trash. If you, as a neurotypical person, are reading about two neurotypical married people and "what your marriage should look like" "give and take" and "normal communication styles/ aides" you will end up feeling like you're crazy, or you're married to a person who is just downright insensitive or intentionally mean. Advice and books written for NT/NT couples, truly aren't much help at all for NT/ND couples. And often reading them can make you feel hopeless.

We believe that there are MANY marriages struggling because one of the parties has Aspergers, but is undiagnosed.

Aspergers is very often misdiagnosed, or not even on a couples radar as a possiblity.

"MISDIAGNOSIS
There are many different syndromes and disorders that can be mistaken for ASD because they are so similar; these are called differential diagnoses. Without an official analysis you may think that your partner is narcissistic, schizophrenic, has ADD (attention deficit disorder), and all its cousins, NLD (nonverbal learning disorder), avoidant personality disorder, OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder), ODD (oppositional defiance disorder), and many others. With all the confusion many couples end up with the diagnosis of DRC (don't really care). They throw up their hands in despair and separate or divorce."
~Asperger's Syndrome
(Autism Spectrum Disorder)
And Long-Term Relationships

Us learning that David has High Functioning Asperger's has been a blessing we can't even quantify in helping us to understand one another and help him to see he is exactly as God made him to be.

We truly felt for years like we were speaking a different language to each other. That's because we were.

If you are having difficulty in your marriage, do some research on Asperger's and see if it might apply to yourself or your spouse. It could be life changing and marriage saving. ❤️†✨

09/25/2024

09/23/2024

I have said again and again, that my clients are the kindest people. Her note to me just now as she is preparing to head to Italy.

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08/27/2024

Big project finally finished in my shop!

I bought this buffet years ago at an auction for $35, and got an upper cabinet like this one (only without beadboard backing, but these are the original drawers) for free at another auction. I've used them both for years unpainted, and the top cabinet was about to fall apart. My Dear Superman built a cabinet to replace it, even with the drawers cubbies! Ashley stained the new (so I could make it look old 😂) cabinet last week, and I finally got both pieces painted white and distressed. Then I cut and put the beadboard on today. Hooray for finished projects!!

Next up, {{{FINALLY}}} caulking my windows, then painting the window trim in the shop, making slip covers for one piece of living room furniture at a time, and THEN, at last, hardwood flooring for my shop.

Umm, why, yes... We did build in over ten years ago...👀🤪🤔🤣

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07/04/2024

Bwahaha!!! 😂🤣😂

06/12/2024

Happy Wednesday thought. ❤️

06/05/2024

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05/30/2024

I'm so thankful, our precious, Jesus loving, everyone loving, heart full, arms always stretched out to offer love and hugs, comfort and rest, girl shared this.

She is the epitome of compassion... But we struggle. We carry this shared, passed from my mama, gene, of deep compassion and empathy, of overwhelm of sorrow when we see people hurting that either want or refuse to be helped, of so much that needs to be done, of so many that need hugged, held, listened to, tenderly taught the gospel, loved.

Sometimes what we need is to withdraw. To sit, rest and be still with our Dear Lord, away from everyone's pain.

But often we need to love on others, to help them, to show them the love of Jesus.

so our hands stop shaking

05/27/2024

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04/06/2024

So thankful my dear Superman helped me get my new fabric wound on my boards. After 10+ years, I'll finally caulking and painting the window trim in my shop and we're laying my hard wood floor in the next few months. Woohoo!!

04/01/2024

Oh, this is so good! ❤️

03/24/2024

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