08/26/2026
A day late, but I think I needed a minute to understand why losing Dolly feels so enormous. I haven’t felt this kind of grief over the loss of a public figure since David Bowie, someone whose presence in the world felt so singular that it was almost impossible to imagine the world without them. Dolly was one of those people.
Dolly brought everyone together. Gay people, trans people, rednecks, MAGA voters, leftists—people who had been taught to believe they hated one another all loved Dolly. To go to a Dolly concert was to enter a room filled with all of those people, peacefully existing together beneath her light.
She stood firmly in her beliefs, but she never used them to humiliate anyone. She didn’t confuse conviction with cruelty. She never made people feel that they had to be exactly like her to be worthy of her love.
And her life was every bit as generous as her words. She didn’t simply talk about kindness, faith and service, she lived them. She walked the tenets of what she believed and did more for humanity than most of us could ever dream of doing.
Living in the desert has made me understand this more and more. There are probably more MAGA voters here than liberals, but when I meet people as human beings, not as political identities most are kind. Most help their neighbors. Most take care of one another when it really matters.
That doesn’t mean our differences aren’t real or that we shouldn’t stand up for what we believe. But fighting people who don’t see the world exactly as I do will never create the peace I want this world to experience.
If we could begin with our shared humanity, perhaps we could stop allowing powerful people to convince us that our neighbors are our enemies. Because when ordinary people are divided, nobody wins except the people who benefit from keeping us that way. Dolly showed us another way.
Stand for something without losing your tenderness. Lead with love whenever you can.Bring people together. Leave the world more generous than you found it.
Be more like Dolly. Every single day. 🤍