01/17/2026
Also… the idea that everything in your closet should spark joy is honestly BS….
That doesn’t mean you should keep clothes you hate, that don’t fit, or make you feel terrible - - - absolutely not.
You should like what you own. But how much something “sparks joy” is in no way a measure of how useful it is, how functional it is for your life, or how well it can be incorporated into your weekly or monthly outfit cycle. It’s looking at the wrong determining factor and simplifying it way too much.
I also really dislike the rule you hear online all the time: if you haven’t worn it in X amount of time, it’s time to get rid of it🙄
Sometimes that’s true if it’s been years, but most of the time, it’s not asking the right questions or acknowledging the complexity of real life > > >
We move through seasons ~ literally🌞🍂❄️🌷, personally, socially and professionally.
••One winter you may live in jeans and a blazer, and the next you feel best in dresses with knee-high boots and a sweater draped over your shoulders. Then suddenly spring arrives and everything shifts again. That doesn’t mean the blazer&jeans should be purged just because they weren’t worn as often as the dresses were.
✨Of course, wear frequency can offer valuable information.
It matters whether an item is low quality, overly trend-driven, or something you never reach for > and why.
Was it cheap? Trendy? You don’t know what to pair it with? Did you see it on someone else and think it would solve a style problem for you?
The issue with mindless purging/decluttering just to clear space without digging deeper or learning how to style what you already own - - - is that it reinforces two harmful ideas:
#1: clothing is disposable (it shouldn’t be)
#2: getting rid of things will alone fix all your wardrobe problems
It won’t…
You’ll likely end up buying more, repeating the cycle, and standing in front of a closet full of clothes that don’t fit well, don’t align with your personal style, and leave you feeling guilty for having “so much” but nothing to wear.