AgeismSucks

06/16/2026

RE: NYTimes Opinion column last weekend, “I’m a 53-Year-Old Woman. Stop Telling Me I’m Invisible”

Initially, I thought this would be a refreshing point of view, until this, regarding women like herself, “This woman is solvent, capable, desiring and desirable, happy with her years and looking at decades and decades more ahead of her.”
 
And I just thought, well, bully for you Mireille Silcoff, but you haven’t got a clue as to what your not so solvent sisters (and brothers) are going through.
 
I searched the comments for “solvent” and found several references, including the one below by Anonymous, none were among the 33 comments the writer chose to acknowledge
 
“The argument here rests on a foundation the author never examines: class. The women she describes - solvent, accomplished, desirable, overwhelmed by career and family in equal measure - represent a particular stratum, and a fairly narrow one. For those of us without rewarding careers, without assets and portfolios, without the social networks that confer relevance, invisibility is not a myth. It is a defining fact of daily life.
 
“I am 61 and invisible in exactly the ways this article dismisses. And I’ll say plainly what the author’s framing made me feel: shame. Not because I believe invisibility is my fault, exactly, but because articles like this one make it very difficult not to internalize it that way. If so many women are thriving and visible and in their prime, what does that say about those of us who aren’t? …
 
“Visibility after midlife is a privilege, and it adheres to a specific class of women. Pretending otherwise doesn’t extend that privilege to anyone. It just makes the rest of us feel worse about not having it.”
 
I agreed with the reply from Fred, “ I scrolled and scrolled looking for a comment like this, and finally found yours Thank you for writing — you’ve described something significant that the author of this piece is overlooking.”

05/30/2026

Been seeing a lot of these ads on my feed, which I think are little scammy, all feeding off the same database, and probably impossible to unsubscribe from, and probably don’t deliver as promised at least according to the comments, put my biggest complaint with this one in particular is that it’s clearly AI generated imagery. Just seems a little cheesy. So no, not necessarily an sucks thing, but had to comment.

05/12/2026

product placement triple play in Season 2 Episode 8 of “The Disappointments.” Thanks to and !

Available at www.ageimsucks.com

05/10/2026

How would you react if someone got in your face and told you you were too old to be in a particular place, in this case a neighborhood bar in the East Village?

Please share your thoughts in the comments.

05/07/2026

T-shirt season is upon us. Or should be soon. Consider popping on an T-shirt to give them something to think about!

(The T-shirt in the reel has text on the back, but there is a version of no text on the back. Most of the shirts don’t have the back text. If you wanna get them talking coming and going, there it is)

Trust me, every time I wear mine I get a thumbs up or a positive comment and if I’m lucky, a good conversation about ageism — and with people of all ages.

T-shirts come in a variety of graphic styles (I may have gone overboard, but I’m a graphic designer!), including a series I did based on decades.

A lot of of us have a favorite decade, so I have a T-shirt that looks like typography from a 50s jazz album cover, a 60s T-shirt with groovy lettering, a punk T-shirt for the 70s reminiscent of a S*x Pistol album cover, an 80s version with lettering in the style of the Miami Vice logo and a 90s T-shirt reminiscing of a 90s pop music album cover, graphic.

Did an extra one for the 80s, which those who know will recognize as being influenced by the Italian design studio, Memphis Group.

There are also tote bags and mugs.

You can check everything out at www.ageismsucks.com (Etsy) or just tap the bio link.

04/29/2026

04/26/2026

Hey Ashley , thanks for continuing to rock your T-shirt!

This style and many more available at ageismsucks.com

04/21/2026

“That’s why I am making a “f**k it list” F**k it to what is expected: I’ll do the opposite.”

As seen a recent “the hill I will die on” column in titled “Put that bucket list in the bin” by Rise Rouse, founder of Advantages of Age

04/17/2026

Article from last month popped up on my NYTimes feed, the title of which I thought was a bit ick:

“The Best Makeup for Mature Skin”
by Abbie Kozolchyk

First two paragraphs:

My issue here is with the use of the word, “mature” and the lame excuse that no better could be found.

First two paragraphs of the article:

“But as a Gen Xer trying to understand how my peers and elders view makeup at this stage of life, I’ve asked a lot of women to reflect on joining the “mature skin” club. The most common response? Some version of the Marxian classic: “I don’t want to belong to any club that will accept me as a member.” Or at least not this club.

“There is, of course, a branding problem. I defy you to come up with a sorrier euphemism than “mature skin.” Then again, I defy you to come up with a better alternative. Our beauty team tried — and failed dramatically. A short list of the nominees includes “vintage skin,” “seasoned skin,” and “skin that has seen some stuff.”

Bit perplexing that a team of NYTimes writers could not come up with a better alternative to “mature.” I did in seconds.

Since the article references 40- to 87-year-old testers, I went with 40+ and … done:

“The Best Makeup for 40+ Skin”

Simple, unambiguous and unapologetic. Just how we like it.

What do you think?

04/09/2026

Is Restoration Hardware ageist? Perhaps their Marketing Dept is. Someone had to cast this boring shoot. Check out this spread from their Paris restaurant in a recent catalog. No one over 35 seems to have a seat at the table. Literally! 🙄

You can see the photo at rh.com/us/en/paris/lejardin