Second Ceremony is a pause. An invitation to take a breath and see things from a new perspective and bring some order and safety into the chaos and unknown, because divorce is such a big unknown. Second Ceremony gives you the tools you need to honor the “end” of a marriage using ritual and ceremony. Take part. Second Ceremony is also a place to find support and hope in reading divorce stories, and
to share yours, how you moved through the process and if you have kids, what happened with them. At Second Ceremony we feel that sharing your story is a ritual as well. A way of documenting one of the most significant events of your life. It is also an amazing way of helping a family in crisis. If someone can connect with your story and come away with a sense of hope that it is possible to get to the other side, it can be tremendously helpful. How does it work? Rituals and Ceremonies relieve stress immediately. The process actually slows down time and eases the overwhelming pain. Now, it doesn’t take the pain away, but it lessens its overall hold on you, your children, your friends, family and your ex or soon to be ex partner. It relieves the pressure, like a balloon that is overinflated, lets a little more of the pressure out until you can breathe a little more. Because in the midst of a crisis it is hard to know what to do and its helpful to have a set of tools that you can use, like dialing Divorce-911. What do I do? Please go to the Ceremonies and Ritual page. You will find a few things here that you can do immediately with your family, on your own, or with your partner to ease the dissolution. You can also reach out to me directly here and send me a private note and I can guide you to the ceremony that would be best. Or we can work to customize one for your situation. Don’t worry. I won’t share your information with anyone. Why do I ask you to share your stories? I have had the direct experience of feeling isolated and alone in painful situations. One of the ways I have lifted out of the pain of it all is to hear others share experience, straight and hope. A big part of this site is sharing with one another. I hope that by sharing the struggle, the pain and the rising out of it all we can feel that already in place connection and feel a sense of belonging. Who am I? I have been married and divorced three times and I grew up in a house with parents that divorced in a never ending and dramatic way. These experiences along with much “self” work have brought me to a new understanding of divorce and our children. Please read more of my story at the My Stories page. I am writing a book about children and divorce. With the permission of those included, the book weaves personal stories into research and ritual. My hope is that you will find solace in the stories shared here, and will share yours, too, to give others hope in their hopelessness—here on the site, and maybe even in the book. Take care,
Jacqui
